Whoever said ‘Patience is a virtue’ knew what he was talking about. Learn the importance of patience and how keeping it can affect and transform your relationships for the better.
Patience is a skill you and your partner need if you want a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
Patience is the ability to deal with any experience that does not work out in your favor and therefore elicits strong feelings. We all have to learn to deal with frustrating situations–this is a hallmark of maturity. And relationships are meant for people that are matured. Impatience is a fundamental calamity which befalls relationship like no man’s business. Many collapsed relationship can be traced to impatient.
Let me tell you this; if you cannot imbibe patience as a virtue, you cannot communicate effectively, impatience will cause you to jump to conclusions without asking why. It will make you believe false evidence about your partner. It’s deadly as snake poison.
Lacking the skills required for greater patience can hurt your relationship, since mounting frustrations will cause you to be overly reactive toward your spouse and the inevitable challenges that are part of all committed relationships.
If you are patient and kind with your partner, they will feel loved and adored. If you are impatient and intolerant, your partner is likely to feel rejected by you. Your actions and reactions can have a direct effect on how your partner feels, so think about this when you‘re feeling impatient or frustrated. Remember that you care about your partner deeply and don‘t want to hurt them.
It‘s normal to turn immediately to an impatient response; many people assume that mistakes or inconveniences are the result of other people‘s incompetence and carelessness. This is a pretty bleak outlook to have on those around you, though, and may lead you to say hurtful things before you even realize it. A great way to break this habit is to use a buffer to force you to think before responding.
Some people can insult and abuse their partners; they can call them names all because of simplest mistake. Some will overreact just like my girlfriend and landed their partners on the sick bed. Learn the art of thinking before talking.
Patience will come along with understanding, and one of the most important things to understand about your partner is that they‘re not perfect. They can‘t be!
When you set unrealistic expectations for your partner or decide that things absolutely must go a certain way, you will inevitably be disappointed. This disappointment will lead to impatience and frustration in the relationship. You can avoid this by simply having reasonable expectations for your partner
No relationship will ever be perfect. There will inevitably be points of tension between you and your partner from time to time, and that‘s okay.
Instead of letting this tension define your relationship during those times, always keep in mind the things you love about your partner. When you see your partner as a whole, it is easier to be patient through stressful times.
Focus on your partner‘s good side before making any decision.
Patience is a virtue that can save you from countless problem and heartbreak. Always have this at the back of your mind; YOUR SPOUSE WILL NOT INTENTIONALLY HURT YOU, hence when you discover anything, ask before concluding.